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@Nikki: Amen. Again.
Maybe we’re right and it’s “crazy” to always be level headed. I like to think when I’m upset and in touch with my emotions, it’s healthy, because I’m not bottling them up.
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becknee
wrote on February 14 2010 @ 07:04 pm: [report]
Thanks for this, Nikki. It made me think.
The concept of bottling up your emotions because you haven’t yet sorted through them yourself resonates with me big-time. As a woman who dates men, I’ve noticed this tendency in both myself and my longtime boyfriend.
It seems - from my experience and everyone’s comments - like part of why some of us aren’t forthcoming with our emotions is because we want to have the issue classified, figured out, and judged as to whether it’s even worth bringing up and possibly arguing about before we blurt something out. I know I’ve had times when I wouldn’t own up to what was wrong, then figured it out and dismissed it in my own mind without ever talking to my boyfriend. Sometimes the hangups really are all in my own head and I end up glad I didn’t involve him.
Not saying this is the case in every such situation, but it’s interesting to me to think that it could actually be an okay strategy every once in a while.
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GreenBlessingsGoddess
wrote on February 14 2010 @ 10:32 pm: [report]
Good Nikki, I am happy to hear you are getting therapy to help you become healthier. I hope you find healthy girlfriends that relate in calm and expressive ways and calmly talk to you and be upfront about their emotions.
Blessed be. Enjoy healthy relating and give thought to how much frustration there is with the people that make you guess what to think, obviously you are not ready or willing to hear what point I am trying to make to you, so be it, hopefully the therapist will get through to you. Feel free to show them what I write about healthy relating is expressing feelings and not making others guess what you feel.